My Internal Struggle

The vast majority of my regular golf buddies comment quite frequently that I have great tempo in my golf swing. In fact some of them even insist that I hit before them off many tee boxes so that they can have a fresh visual in their minds of my smooth tempo before they take their turn to hit. Funny this is, though, that the same majority of these buddies of mine who admire my tempo also hit the ball 15-20 yards further than me off the tee and are at least 1 (if not 2) clubs longer than me with their irons. So I ask you, gentle reader, if I've stumbled into some diabolical catch-22 where my tempo makes my swing work, but to attempt to keep up with the Jones' I'd have to swing harder and would likely mishit my shots just that much more resulting in the very same distance as before. What's a once-a-week golfer to do? Help!